I think Bill Murray is friggin hilarious. I love his dead pan humor. Caddyshack, SNL, Ghostbusters, Groundhog Day, Rushmore, Lost in Translation....classics.

Unlike something public like Chris Brown pounding Rihanna's face and the subsequent photos that were released after the incident, there is really no proof other than police reports. The prosecutor did not file charges. Other than paying for it in a divorce, Murray wasn't held accountable in the court of law and likely did not accept personal accountability either.
But domestic violence isn't black and white. Batterers come in all forms, even celebrities. They are rich, poor, male, female, handsome, pretty, even funny. Even I, who know the signs of an abuser well, can't usually pick a batterer out of crowd....and believe me. I try.

In some respects, Dr. Phil is right. It wasn't love and anyone who chooses to have sex with a 12 year-old girl clearly has some issues. But sick? Did anyone ever think Bill Murray or Chris Brown was sick? Do people think they are sick now?
This is a dangerous notion, to think that batterers and pedophiles are visibly sick. Many are emotionally deficient and have sociopath tendencies, concerned about what image they have in public. But if they were "sick," they probably wouldn't have much self-control in public. They could be a co-worker, furnace repair man, teacher, the person ringing up your groceries, the pizza delivery person or even funny-man Bill Murray. You could know someone for years and never realize what dark secret they may be hiding in their home life. Thinking batterers and pedophiles are sick helps us sleep better at night but it doesn't necessarily make anyone safe.
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